For Women
(And people with bodies Assigned Female at Birth)
If you are on testosterone, click here.
- Vulva
All the visible parts; lips, clit, urethra, vaginal opening, and perineum.
They are collectively called the vulva (not the vagina!).
No two vulvas look the same. The labia can be long, short, tucked, uneven, smooth, wrinkly, dark, or light; all totally normal.
The vulva is self-cleaning: no douches, soaps, or perfumes needed. Just warm water.
The Labia can swell and darken when aroused; that’s a good thing!
Some people enjoy outer stimulation (labia rubbing, pressure, vibration) even more than penetration.
- The Clit
The visible tip is just the beginning; it’s like the iceberg of pleasure. The full clitoris is a wishbone-shaped organ that extends deep inside the body, wrapping around the vaginal canal.
It’s packed with about 8,000 nerve endings, more than any other body part.
The clit gets erect when aroused, just like a penis!
Not everyone likes direct touch; try circles, tongue, or indirect pressure instead.
Orgasms can be clitoral, internal, blended, or even full-body; there’s no “right” kind.
The Vagina
The vagina is the stretchy internal canal leading from the vulva to the cervix. It can expand for penetration, toys, or childbirth; but it’s not always ready right away.
Arousal brings natural lubrication; forcing penetration without it can cause pain or microtears.
It’s normal for discharge to change throughout your cycle: that’s your body keeping things balanced.
The G-spot isn’t a separate organ; it’s a sensitive area connected to the internal clitoral network.
Vaginas are self-cleaning; skip douches and scented soaps, they mess with your pH.
- Butt & Anal Play
Even without a prostate, the anus and surrounding tissue are full of nerve endings and can be a major source of pleasure for AFAB folks too.
Lube is your bestie, use plenty of it because the anus doesn’t self-lubricate!
Start small, go slow, and relax; tension makes it harder and less comfortable.
Hygiene and communication (if with a partner) matter more than technique.
- Pelvic Floor
Your pelvic floor muscles support the bladder, uterus, and bowel; and play a big role in sexual pleasure and orgasm.
Strong, flexible pelvic muscles can make orgasms more intense.
Kegels (squeezing exercises) help, but overdoing them can cause tightness or pain.
Pelvic floor physiotherapists can help with pain, leaks, or tension: no shame, just science.
- The Cervix
The cervix sits at the end of the vagina. It’s the small, donut-shaped opening to the uterus.
Some people love gentle cervical stimulation, others find it uncomfortable (or painful).
During arousal, the cervix usually lifts and moves back to make space.
It can feel firmer or softer depending on your cycle.
If you’re getting cervical pain during sex, it might just mean you need more lube, foreplay, or a shallower angle.
- G-Spot / Internal Clitoral Network
The so-called G-spot isn’t one single “button”, it’s part of a larger web of erectile tissue connected to the clit and urethral sponge.
It often feels slightly textured or ridged on the front vaginal wall, about 2–3 inches in.
Stimulating this area can produce deeper, “fuller” orgasms for some.
Some people squirt (expel fluid) during this kind of stimulation. This is totally normal, and totally optional.
It’s okay if you don’t feel much there- every body’s wiring is different!
- Urethra & Pee Hole
The urethra is the small opening just above the vaginal canal where urine exits.
The tissue around it (the urethral sponge) can be super sensitive and contributes to G-spot pleasure.
Wipe front to back after peeing to avoid UTIs.
Peeing after sex is recommended; it helps flush out bacteria.
During penetration, lube and condoms can reduce irritation from friction.
- Nipples
Nipples and areolas are packed with nerve endings and can respond to touch, suction, temperature, or vibration.
It’s totally normal, if they get erect when aroused, cold, or stimulated- but again, every body is different!
Some people can orgasm from nipple play alone- others really don’t like it!
Nipple sensitivity varies with hormones, pregnancy, or surgery (top surgery, implants, etc.).
- Perineum
The area between the vulva and anus is soft, sensitive, and responsive to pressure or touch.
It can tear during rough sex or child birth, but usually heals well with rest and hygiene.
If your perineum sore or torn:
Keep it clean and dry.
Avoid sex until healed.
Use a sitz bath or warm compress for comfort.
See a healthcare provider if there’s pain, bleeding, or swelling.