For people assigned AFAB & Cis Women

All the visible parts; lips(labia majora and labia minora), clitoris, urethra, vaginal opening, and perineum.
They  are collectively called the vulva (not the vagina!).

No two vulvas look the same. The labia can be long, short, tucked, uneven, smooth, wrinkly, dark, or light; all totally normal and beautiful. 

The vulva is self-cleaning: no douches, soaps, or perfumes needed. Just warm water.

The Labia can swell and darken when aroused; that’s a good thing!

Some people enjoy outer stimulation (labia rubbing, pressure, vibration) even more than penetration.

The visible tip is just the beginning; it’s like the iceberg of pleasure. The full clitoris is a wishbone-shaped organ that extends deep inside the body, wrapping around the vaginal canal.

It’s packed with about 8,000 nerve endings, more than any other body part.

The clit gets erect when aroused, just like a penis because it is made up of the same erectile tissue which extends all the way into the vaginal opening.  

Not everyone likes direct touch; try circles, tongue, or indirect pressure instead.

Orgasms can be clitoral, internal, blended, or even full-body; there’s no “right” kind.

The vagina is the stretchy internal canal leading from the vulva to the cervix. It can expand for penetration, toys, or childbirth; but it’s not always ready right away.

Arousal can bring natural lubrication but this does not necessarily happen so listen to your partner and use lube if you need it; forcing penetration without it can cause pain or microtears. Similarly, ‘getting wet’ is not a sure sign of arousal and does not indicate consent or readiness for sex. 

It’s normal for discharge to change throughout your cycle: that’s your body keeping things balanced.

The G-spot isn’t a separate organ; it’s a sensitive area connected to the internal clitoral network.

Vaginas are self-cleaning; skip douches and scented soaps, they mess with your pH.

The cervix sits at the end of the vagina. It’s the small, donut-shaped opening to the uterus.
Some people love gentle cervical stimulation, others find it uncomfortable (or painful).

During arousal, the cervix usually lifts and moves back to make space.

It can feel firmer or softer depending on your cycle.

If you’re getting cervical pain during sex, it might just mean you need more lube, foreplay, or a shallower angle.

Your cervix is not an opening that any object can pass through(unless you are in the process of giving birth so relatively rare), the vagina is a closed canal. Therefore nothing can get ‘lost’ inside you. No condoms, tampons or toys. Things can get stuck or become hard to reach(again, rarely) but they cannot go past your cervix into abdomen so if you feel like something has gotten stuck somewhere, breathe, relax, try a squat position and maybe have a partner to help you fish it out. If this doesn’t work, seek out a medical professional but don’t panic. 

The so-called G-spot isn’t one single “button”, it’s part of a larger web of erectile tissue connected to the clit and urethral sponge.
It often feels slightly textured or ridged on the front vaginal wall, about 2–3 inches in.

Stimulating this area can produce deeper, “fuller” orgasms for some.

Some people squirt (expel a clear fluid) during this kind of stimulation from the urethra. This is totally normal, and totally optional. Not everyone experiences it and it should not be something to strive for, pleasure is!

It’s also okay if you don’t feel much there- every body’s wiring is different!

The urethra is the small opening just above the vaginal canal where urine exits.
The tissue around it (the urethral sponge) can be super sensitive and contributes to G-spot pleasure.

Wipe front to back after peeing to avoid UTIs.

Peeing after sex is recommended; it helps flush out bacteria.

During penetration, lube and condoms can reduce irritation from friction.

Nipples and areolas are packed with nerve endings and can respond to touch, suction, temperature, or vibration.

It’s totally normal, if they get erect when aroused, cold, or stimulated- but again, every body is different!

Some people can orgasm from nipple play alone- others really don’t like it!

Nipple sensitivity varies with hormones, pregnancy, or surgery (top surgery, implants, etc.).

The area between the vulva and anus is soft, sensitive, and responsive to pressure or touch.
It can tear during rough sex or child birth, but usually heals well with rest and hygiene.

If your perineum sore or torn:

• Keep it clean and dry.

• Avoid sex until healed.

• Use a sitz bath or warm compress for comfort.

• See a healthcare provider if there’s pain, bleeding, or swelling.

Even without a prostate, the anus and surrounding tissue are full of nerve endings and can be a major source of pleasure for AFAB folks too.

Lube is your bestie, use plenty of it because the anus doesn’t self-lubricate!

Start small, go very slow, and relax; tension makes it harder and less comfortable.

Massaging your vulva during penetration can ease the process and also enhance pleasure!

Hygiene and communication (if with a partner) matter more than technique.

Your pelvic floor muscles support the bladder, uterus, and bowel; and play a big role in sexual pleasure and orgasm.

Strong, flexible pelvic muscles can make orgasms more intense.

Kegels (squeezing exercises) help, but overdoing them can cause tightness or pain.

Pelvic floor physiotherapists can help with pain, leaks, or tension: no shame, just science. A weakening of the pelvic floor can happen after childbirth and during menopause and is totally normal.