What is sex?
If you think it might be sex, it probably is. Hands, mouths, toys, bodies; sex is any act you and your partners define as intimate.
It can be a lot of things casual, romantic, quick, long, rough, gentle. It should be one thing; fun! If you or your partner/s are not having fun, perhaps it’s time to not engage.
Sex has no hierarchy (unless there’s consent and discussion), and should have no shame. If it feels good, everyone’s an adult, and everyone’s on board, you’re doing it right.
Consent isn’t just a checkbox; it’s the whole soundtrack.
It means everyone involved is saying “yes” because they want to, not because they feel pressured, drunk, high, scared, or confused. It’s about checking in, not just once, but throughout: “Still good?”, “You like that?”, “Want to stop?”. If these questions sound like a mood killer, and you and your partner are into dirty talk (verbal), then you can be creative and check in during dirty talk!
Think of consent as:
Ongoing: You can change your mind anytime, no explanation needed.
Enthusiastic: “Hell yes”, “Yes Sir/Mistress/Daddy”, or a willing look in the eyes, beats “okay” every time.
Informed: Everyone knows what’s happening and what’s off-limits.
Mutual: It goes both ways; giving and receiving matter equally.
No one owes anyone sex, and no one’s “too sexy” to ask for permission.
Whether it’s a casual hookup, a long-term partner, or solo exploration, the goal’s the same: pleasure with respect.
Remember: bodies are diverse, desires are personal, and sex is an intimate and creative act; not a performance.
Laugh, learn, lube up, and communicate.
The safest, hottest sex is the kind where everyone feels wanted, comfortable, and in control.
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