Trans Men
If you are not on testosterone, click here, and remember: you are still a man!
Mind, Dysphoria & Desire
Desire is in your confidence, your identity, and how seen you feel; don’t put all the focus on genitals!
It’s okay to set boundaries, skip certain kinds of touch, or focus on what feels right in the moment.
Communicate with your partners about what names, touches, and positions feel good.
You deserve pleasure that feels like yours, not borrowed from someone else’s idea of sex.
There’s no single way to have sex as a trans man: only your way. Bodies change, maps shift, but pleasure stays yours to define. Lube up, stay curious, and don’t forget: being affirmed is part of being turned on!
Hormones and Body Changes
Testosterone (T) changes your voice, body hair, muscles, and libido, and it can shift how your body feels and responds to touch.
“Bottom growth” is common: the clitoris (or dick, as some call it) may grow up to 1–2 inches and become more sensitive.
Skin may thicken, odors may change, and vaginal tissue can become thinner and drier - lube is your bestie!
You might find your arousal pattern changes; faster to start, stronger to finish.
Don’t be surprised if your body’s map of pleasure changes. T doesn’t erase sensitivity, it just rewires things!
Bottom Growth
Your clit may grow larger, and many trans men call it their dick*- both are correct if it feels right to you.
It can get very sensitive, especially in the early months of T.
Some trans men love stroking, sucking, or pressure; others find it overstimulating. Both are normal.
Lube, gentle touch, and communication go a long way.
Changes happen gradually, so check in with yourself (and your partners) as your body evolves.
*There’s no one “right” term. Use what feels affirming to you
Vagina
Still there unless you’ve had bottom surgery, and if you haven’t, that’s completely valid. Testosterone doesn’t make you “less of a man.”
On T, the vagina may get drier or more delicate; use a good water-based or silicone lube.
Some guys find penetration dysphoric; others enjoy it in the right context.
You’re in charge of what kind of touch, if any, feels okay.
Testosterone doesn’t “erase” your vagina; it just changes how it behaves.
A little self-awareness and a lot of lube = way better comfort and control.
Chest after Top Surgery
Top surgery flattens your chest, but doesn’t erase sensation.
Nipple feeling can range from hypersensitive to numb; it often improves over time.
Some guys experience nipple play as deeply erotic, while others don’t like touch there.
Sensation might shift. Experiment with temperature, touch, or vibration to find what works
Bottom Surgery
Bottom surgery techniques vary; some guys have a phalloplasty (a full-size penis made from grafted skin) or a metoidioplasty (using the enlarged clit to form a smaller dick).
Sensation is highly individual; some feel everything, others have reduced sensitivity that returns over time.
Erections (via implants or natural growth) take adjustment, and go slow.
Dilation or stretching may be part of healing; think of it as reclaiming pleasure at your own pace.
Post-surgery tip: Be patient with your body. Healing and sensation take time. Pleasure will come back, sometimes in new ways.
Butt & Anal Play
You don’t need a prostate to enjoy anal play; pleasure comes from the rich nerve endings in and around the anus.
Testosterone can make muscles in the pelvic area feel tighter or different. Take it slow, use lots of lube, and breathe.
Anal play can be done solo, with toys, or with partners; communication and hygiene are key.
Pee after sex or anal play to help prevent infection, and clean toys before and after use.
Some trans men find their strongest orgasms through anal or pelvic stimulation. It’s about the nerves, not the prostate.
Erogenous Zones
Your body is a constellation, not just one star.
The neck, nipples, inner thighs, and perineum can all be pleasure zones.
Bottom growth often becomes the star of the show, but other spots can stay just as responsive.
Testosterone can heighten your sex drive, but not everyone on T feels hypersexual. Everyone’s balance is different.
If you experience dysphoria, focus on sensations that feel affirming and skip anything that doesn’t.